Have you ever wanted to just look at someone and ask them how they got so self entailed for so long? I have always believed that people will go as far as you let them. If you don’t believe me look around study some people in your life and how they move and act toward you.
The concept of saying no can sometime be difficult because many of us are faced with guilt and and fear afterwards. These feeling can sometime affect your family life, your work and professional life and even your personal life. If that becomes the case, we need to take a step back and reevaluate our decision making. When you think about it, we become so consumed with other people’s needs, likes, hobbies, schedule , you forget to fill your schedule with things you really need to do to benefit you and your future. NOW I’m not saying you should go around and be a complete A-Hole to those around you. By no means do I want you to give out No’s like Oprah gave out cars in her talk show (back in the days). But I do think you should ask yourself why you are always so quick to say yes in the first place. The answer could be that you don’t have a lot of things in your life keeping you busy, or maybe you haven’t really invested in some of your own interest. Whatever the reason might be, it is always important to look into your life and see what you need to be doing before you can commit to something you might regard later.
If saying no is something you are not ready to do or comfortable with, don’t you worry your little soul out. I have crafted my five approaches I use when I need to say now without actually Using N.O.
Check out the list below and let me know what your thoughts are on it.
As always have a great rest of the week everyone :).
Five Approaches to “How To Say No…Without Saying No”
- Make your availability less available.
- Find things that interest you (could be that you simply don’t have your own hobbies)
- Offer a date and time that is convenient to you. ( Take control of your time and schedule)
- Offer an alternative way to complete the task without you being a part of it.
- Say Nothing. 🙂
~S.C~
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